Brian Gill v. Rodney Van Nostrand
Brian Gill v. Rodney Van Nostrand
Opinion
Plaintiff/appellant Brian Gill and defendant/appellee Rodney Van Nostrand were in a romantic relationship and cohabited for several years beginning in 2004. After their romantic relationship waned, and a few months after Mr. Van Nostrand had a ceremonial wedding in Brazil to another man he had met while on a lengthy work assignment in that country, Mr. Gill filed a complaint for legal separation from Mr. Van Nostrand, alleging that the two men are parties in a common law marriage that began in 2004. 1 Mr. Gill also sought alimony and a distribution of marital property. Mr. Van Nostrand denied that he and Mr. Gill had entered into a common law marriage. The matter was tried in the Superior Court over several days in June and July 2017. In its post-trial decision that we are asked to review, the trial court recognized that same-sex common law marriages are lawful in the District of Columbia and referred to its prior ruling in the case "that a party in a same-sex relationship *874 must be given the opportunity to prove a common law marriage, even at a time when same-sex marriage was not legal ...." The court concluded, however, that Mr. Gill had failed to prove by clear and convincing evidence the existence of a common law marriage between him and Mr. Van Nostrand. The court therefore dismissed Mr. Gill's complaint.
In this appeal, Mr. Gill does not take issue with the trial court's description of what he was required to prove in order to prevail on his claims: "that he and [Mr. Van Nostrand] made a commitment to each other, in the present tense, that was comparable to the commitment that parties make to each other in ceremonial marriages." Mr. Gill asserts, however, that the trial court erred by unconstitutionally "[r]equiring the parties' ... agreement and relationship to meet expectations of form, custom, and marital consciousness drawn from the very institution of traditionally-conceived marriage from which they were excluded" before the Supreme Court's decision in Obergefell v. Hodges . 2 Mr. Gill also argues that the trial court's assessment of the parties' relationship "was affected by prejudicial assumptions and expectations." He further asserts that the trial court "provided no room for the different forms that a 'marriage' agreement occurring in the shadow of the institution might take ...." He characterizes the trial court's reasoning as "an insult to the seriousness of same-sex relationships," and contends that the trial court gave inadequate consideration to the parties' "commitment, intimacy, shared responsibility, and ... vision of [the] permanence" of their relationship.
Because we are satisfied that the record does not support Mr. Gill's characterization of the trial court's ruling, and because the evidence did not compel the trial court to conclude that the parties made an express mutual commitment to each other that was comparable to the commitment parties make to each other in a ceremonial marriage, we affirm.
I.
In
Obergefell
, the Supreme Court held that same-sex couples may not be deprived of the fundamental right to marry and that state laws that "exclude same-sex couples from civil marriage on the same terms and conditions as opposite-sex couples" violate the Due Process and Equal Protection Clauses of the Constitution and are therefore invalid. 135 S.Ct. at 2602-03, 2604-05. This court similarly has recognized that a law that would deny the right to marry to "individuals who are partners to a same-sex rather than opposite-sex union .... would take away from those individuals a civil right" and would "authorize discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation" in violation of the District of Columbia Human Rights Act.
Jackson v. District of Columbia Bd. of Elections & Ethics
,
"[T]he District of Columbia has long recognized common law marriages."
Mesa v. United States
,
As articulated in numerous pre-
Obergefell
decisions of this court, "[t]he elements of common law marriage in this jurisdiction are cohabitation as husband and wife, following an express mutual agreement, which must be in words of the present tense."
Coleman v. United States
,
"The best evidence of [the requisite present-tense express mutual] agreement is the testimony of the parties."
United States Fid. & Guar. Co. v. Britton
,
Ordinarily, "a party alleging a common-law marriage need prove it only by a preponderance of the evidence."
East v. East
,
More generally (
e.g.
, even when there is no subsequent ceremonial marriage), we have said that "claims of common law marriage should be closely scrutinized."
Cerovic
,
Nevertheless, because ceremonial marriage between same-sex couples was not available in the District of Columbia prior to enactment of § 46-401(a) in 2010, it arguably would be appropriate to apply the "close[ ] scrutin[y]" described above only to a review of what transpired between the parties to a same-sex (putative) common-law marriage after that enactment date. 5 And, somewhat conversely, although Obergefell did not identify the applicable level of scrutiny when marriage laws are applied to same-sex couples, it might be appropriate to apply a rigorous review, "if not quite 'strict scrutiny,' " 6 to any judicial analysis that impinges upon or "substantially" 7 or " 'significantly interfere[s]'
*877
with"
8
the ability of same-sex partners to exercise the fundamental right to marry.
9
We shall assume
arguendo
that serious constitutional issues would arise if the trial court's analysis of common-law marriage operated to the peculiar disadvantage of Mr. Gill and Mr. Van Nostrand as a same-sex-couple, i.e., required them to meet expectations that they as a same-sex couple could meet only with more difficulty than opposite-sex couples would encounter. Such an approach is arguably warranted in order to accord same-sex couples who have chosen to share their lives in a union comparable to traditional marriage "the same respect and dignity accorded a union traditionally designated as marriage."
Strauss v. Horton
,
We have said that whether there is a common law marriage is "
largely
a factual determination,"
Mesa
,
II.
In its order that is before us for review, the trial court summarized each party's account of what happened "in or about" June 2004, when, as the complaint alleges, Mr. Gill proposed to Mr. Van Nostrand. According to Mr. Gill, that is when the parties made their express, mutual commitment that ripened or transformed their *878 relationship into a common-law marriage. As the court recounted, Mr. Gill testified that he decided to surprise Mr. Van Nostrand by purchasing two rings and presenting them to Mr. Van Nostrand along with M & M candies inscribed with "Will you marry me?" Mr. Gill then got down on one knee and asked Mr. Van Nostrand if he would marry him. According to Mr. Gill, Mr. Van Nostrand said "yes," and Mr. Gill placed one of the rings on the ring finger of Mr. Nostrand's left hand. For his part, Mr. Van Nostrand denied Mr. Gill's account of a down-on-one-knee proposal. Mr. Van Nostrand explained that soon after the parties started living together, he learned to his displeasure that Mr. Gill was having sexual relations with another man. The couple then agreed "after much discussion" to have a monogamous relationship and went ring shopping in May 2004 (but did not purchase rings). According to Mr. Van Nostrand, Mr. Gill later bought rings and presented them along with the inscribed M & Ms, but told Mr. Van Nostrand that the two should wear the rings to show that they were in a monogamous relationship, and that, when they decided to get married at some point in the future, they each would inscribe and exchange the rings. 11 There is no dispute that the two men wore the rings from that point on, "with occasional interruptions during difficult times in the relationship, until some point in 2013."
The trial court said that it would assume arguendo that Mr. Van Nostrand said "yes" to Mr. Gill's proposal even though it could not find that this was proven clearly and convincingly. The court then listed a number of findings, addressed more fully in the court's "Conclusions of Law," that were pertinent to the court's main inquiry: whether, as Mr. Gill claimed, "the parties entered into an express mutual agreement to be married as on the date when [Mr. Gill] gave [Mr. Van Nostrand] a ring and proposed to him" or "subsequently enter[ed] into an express mutual [present-tense] agreement to be married." 12 The court found that the parties did not do so at either time.
The trial court listed several reasons for its conclusions. Below, we describe the court's reasoning and pause after each reason to consider whether, as Mr. Gill claims, the court's reasoning "requir[ed] the parties' ... agreement and relationship to meet expectations of form, custom, and marital consciousness drawn from the very institution of traditionally-conceived marriage from which they were excluded" and was "affected by prejudicial assumptions and expectations."
The first reason the court cited is that "neither party even remembered the date" in 2004 when, according to Mr. Gill, they married. The court described Mr. Gill's testimony on this point as "exceptionally vague." "At times, [Mr. Gill] said he did *879 not remember the date of the marriage, at other times he said the marriage occurred in June 2004, and at other points, he said the marriage occurred in the summer of 2004" or "in '2004, I believe.' " By contrast, the trial court noted, Mr. Gill remembered the date of the couples' first date and the date when the couple first met and had sexual relations. The court reasoned that "the date on which parties agree to be married surely would be at least as memorable [as], if not more memorable ... than[,] the date on which" the parties first had sexual relations "or first had a 'real date' at a restaurant."
Mr. Gill criticizes the court's "overreliance" on his failure to remember the precise date. He further asserts that it was prejudicial for the court to require from him a better memory of the date when - unlike opposite-sex couples who "encountered [their marriage] date 10,000 times while booking reservations, preparing invitations, and the like" - ceremonial marriage was foreclosed to him and Mr. Van Nostrand in 2004. We are not persuaded that the court's reliance on this factor was unfairly prejudicial or required the parties to meet expectations of traditional marriage that they, as a same-sex couple, could meet only with difficulty. The date Mr. Gill identifies as the date when the parties' common law marriage began was also, at the very least, the date of Mr. Gill's proposal to Mr. Van Nostrand. Mr. Gill has not suggested why it is more difficult for him as a gay man to remember the date when he proposed marriage and received a "yes" in return than it would be for a person who is part of an opposite-sex couple. In any event, we do not view the trial court's reliance on Mr. Gill's inability to remember the date of the alleged marriage as reflecting an unfair or unreasonable factor to consider in determining whether there was a same-sex common-law marriage. Knowledge of the date of the claimed agreement between the parties was a legitimate, albeit not dispositive consideration, and we do not discern any bias against same-sex couples reflected in the court's consideration of that factor in this case.
The second reason the court highlighted was that neither party told their friends or family about the alleged marriage (or perhaps more correctly, the alleged "entry into a commitment comparable to marriage") and the couple did not commemorate it with a ceremony or celebrate it by going on a honeymoon. 13 Mr. Gill asserts that it was unfair to require the parties' to "meet expectations of ... custom" drawn from the institution of traditional marriage from which he and Mr. Van Nostrand were excluded. The record supports Mr. Gill's assertion that the parties' families had "harsh anti-gay views" at least in the early days of the parties' relationship that explain why the couple might not have immediately told their families about their (claimed) new status. We note, however, Mr. Gill asserted in his complaint that he and Mr. Van Nostrand "shared th[e] information [about their alleged marriage in 2004] with friends and family," thus at least arguably inviting the trial court to focus on this factor.
In any event, the trial court "acknowledge[d] that same-sex couples, prior to the legalization of same-sex marriage, might have been less likely to have a public ceremony or honeymoon than [opposite-sex] couples who could legally celebrate their wedding[.]" The court's focus, therefore, *880 was not on how opposite-sex couples have traditionally celebrated and commemorated marriage, but instead on the evidence that was presented about how these parties and their friends in the gay community marked or signified important events in their romantic lives. As the trial court observed, both parties testified about Mr. Van Nostrand's preference for "celebrat[ing] events in a flamboyant manner." The court noted that when Mr. Van Nostrand proposed to Weller da Silva, the Brazilian man he subsequently married ceremonially (in April 2014), Mr. Van Nostrand delivered the proposal while the pair were in a hot-air balloon over the Serengeti, created an album commemorating the proposal, told family members and friends, met Mr. da Silva's family, and, after the two were married, went on a honeymoon trip to Ecuador and the Galapagos Islands. 14 Mr. Gill makes the valid point that the contrast between Mr. Van Nostrand's decision to tell his family about his marriage to Mr. da Silva in 2014, but not about the (putative) marriage to Mr. Gill, can be attributed to the change (by 2014) in public perception attendant to the legalization of same-sex marriage. But the trial court specifically credited Mr. Van Nostrand's testimony that "he would not have entered into a marriage with [Mr. Gill] without commemorating such an event with ... pomp and circumstance ...." In addition, there was abundant record evidence of Mr. Van Nostrand's financial ability to travel, and of his and Mr. Gill's shared history of foreign travel. Further, the court heard testimony that some of the parties' friends who were same-sex couples had public commitment ceremonies or got married in Massachusetts (steps that were available to the parties, too, even though ceremonial marriage in the District of Columbia was not available to them before 2010). For that reason, the trial court was not compelled to find, as Mr. Gill asserts in his brief to us, that the parties' wearing "gold bands on their left ring fingers" informed friends and family about the parties' (alleged) new relationship "in the most culturally salient manner possible."
It was reasonable for the trial court to infer that if Mr. Van Nostrand had agreed to a present commitment comparable to marriage in 2004, he would have commemorated it in a big way, notwithstanding that same-sex marriage was not lawful in the District of Columbia at that time. We are satisfied that the trial court's reliance on whether the parties told their friends about the alleged marriage or commemorated it in a special way did not amount to unfairly requiring these parties to "meet expectations of ... custom" drawn from the institution of traditional marriage from which they were excluded.
The third reason the court listed is that the parties never inscribed their rings (a step that might have signified that their relationship had progressed from an engagement to a commitment comparable to marriage). The trial court credited Mr. Van Nostrand's testimony that he would not have considered himself married to Mr. Gill until the couple had commemorated their relationship in that manner 15 and that the parties intended to inscribe the rings if they were to get married. The court also found that Mr. Gill refused *881 when Mr. Van Nostrand later asked him if he wanted to get married in Massachusetts, where same-sex marriage was legal; refused when Mr. Van Nostrand suggested that they inscribe and exchange the rings; and also declined to enter into a formal domestic partnership with Mr. Van Nostrand. The trial court therefore had ample basis to discredit Mr. Gill's testimony that he and Mr. Van Nostrand "attempt[ed] to be as married as we could."
Mr. Gill argues that the court's reliance on whether the parties inscribed their rings, married in Massachusetts, or entered a domestic partnership, amounted to making the determination of whether the parties had a common-law marriage "turn on the extent to which the couple chose to mimic the traditional forms of the institution of marriage." We agree that such an approach would be questionable, but we do not agree that this is the approach the trial court took.
16
The court took its lead not from opposite-sex marriage traditions, but from what Mr. Van Nostrand described as the steps
he
would have taken to symbolize and validate that the parties' relationship had advanced to a mutual commitment comparable to marriage. The court's approach was not inappropriate, because "if one party to a purported common law marriage believes she is married, but the other party does not, a marriage cannot be established."
Hogsett v. Neale
, No. 17CA1484, --- P.3d ----, ----,
The fourth factor the court emphasized was that the parties maintained largely separate finances. The court noted that the house into which the parties moved in 2005 was titled solely in Mr. Van Nostrand's name. The court further noted that for most of the years when the parties were together, they had no joint bank account or joint credit card account, having opened a joint checking account and a joint American Express card account only in October 2012, so that Mr. Gill would have easier *882 access to funds to pay for house expenses and veterinary care for the parties' dogs upon Mr. Van Nostrand's move to Brazil. At about the same time, the parties jointly leased a car for Mr. Gill to use to drive the dogs to the veterinarian "and for other purposes" after Mr. Gill did not qualify for the lease in his own name. The court also noted that in 2005, after the parties discussed the creation of wills, durable powers of attorney, and health care directives, Mr. Van Nostrand had an attorney draft a will that named Mr. Gill as beneficiary and personal representative, drafted a durable power of attorney that named Mr. Gill as executor, and drafted a living will that gave Mr. Gill power of attorney for health care decisions. The court found that "[a]lthough [Mr. Gill] was supposed to draft documents giving [Mr. Nostrand] these same benefits and responsibilities, he failed to do so."
We recognize that in this day and age, couples make varying arrangements regarding their finances, such that the maintenance of "largely separate finances" is a far less salient consideration than it might have been in years past. But the trial court's focus was on the contrast between the financial arrangements Mr. Van Nostrand and Mr. Gill had on the one hand, and, on the other hand, the financial arrangements Mr. Van Nostrand had with Mr. da Silva after their ceremonial marriage. The court observed that Mr. Van Nostrand and Mr. da Silva established joint accounts early in their marriage and heard evidence that Mr. Van Nostrand and Mr. da Silva file joint tax returns and have wills, health care directives, and powers of attorney naming each other as beneficiaries or agents.
Mr. Gill argues that the court overlooked evidence that explains the parties' separate finances and why their documents were not completely reciprocal. For example, Mr. Gill explained that the parties made an attempt to keep their finances separate in case any of Mr. Gill's therapy clients were to sue him for malpractice (as one client did). Mr. Gill further explained that Mr. Van Nostrand was "closeted about" his health condition, and that he (Mr. Gill) was not sure that Mr. Van Nostrand would be as comfortable making health care decisions for Mr. Gill as Mr. Gill would be in making health care decisions for Mr. Van Nostrand. Mr. Gill also explained that he had no assets in his name and so did not need a will.
18
In addition, Mr. Gill emphasizes the evidence that he cared for Mr. Van Nostrand during the latter's serious illness; that Mr. Van Nostrand quickly engaged a lawyer when Mr. Gill had legal difficulty; that the parties discussed transferring an interest in the house to Mr. Gill; that the couple wore rings, intermingled their lives, and planned for each other's future; and that tax complications (i.e., the inability to file joint federal tax returns even when same-sex marriage became lawful in the District of Columbia) prevented them from getting married. But the trial court was not required to credit Mr. Gill's explanations or to give them the weight Mr. Gill urged. The court could just as readily conclude, from the fact that there was not a "totality of reciprocal relations,"
Cerovic
,
Fifth, though acknowledging that this fact was not determinative of whether Mr. Gill believed he was in a common-law marriage with Mr. Gill, the trial court cited the evidence that Mr. Gill did not immediately object to Mr. Van Nostrand's wedding plans to Mr. da Silva; "did not ... indicate that [the parties] needed to get divorced first in order for [Mr. Van Nostrand and Mr. da Silva] to be able to marry"; and did so only after realizing that this would affect Mr. Gill's beneficiary status with respect to Mr. Van Nostrand's employee benefits and after consulting with an attorney and learning that he might have a claim against Mr. Van Nostrand under the theory that the parties were in a common law marriage. Mr. Gill asserts that he reacted as he did because he was not aware that the parties' relationship gave him legally enforceable rights vis-à-vis Mr. Van Nostrand. That is understandable, but the trial court's statement that this fifth factor was not determinative satisfies us that the court did not require the parties and Mr. Gill in particular to "meet expectations of ... marital consciousness drawn from" traditionally defined marriage. In addition, we think the trial court exercised reasonable skepticism in light of Mr. Gill's financial incentive to claim that the parties had a common-law marriage.
19
Courts have long "regarded common-law marriage as a fruitful source of fraud and perjury,"
In re Estate of Danza
,
Finally, the trial court contrasted the facts of this case to those of
Carter
,
For all the foregoing reasons, we are satisfied that the evidence did not compel the trial court to conclude that the parties had an express mutual agreement to be permanent partners with the same degree of commitment as the spouses in a ceremonial marriage. The evidence permitted the court to conclude, as it did, that the parties never expressly agreed to be married, in the present tense.
Wherefore, the judgment of the Superior Court is
Affirmed .
Mr. Gill told the court that if it found that a common law marriage existed between the parties, he would amend his complaint to seek divorce rather than legal separation.
--- U.S. ----,
We do not say "to be husband and husband" or "to be husbands" because Mr. Gill asserts that he and Mr. Van Nostrand would not have used the term "husband." Mr. Gill also objects to any analysis that requires the parties to have used the term "married," because it was "a term ... that didn't exist in [their] heads, as well as legally."
We recognize Mr. Van Nostrand's ceremonial marriage in Brazil as a matter of comity, i.e., "the recognition which one nation allows within its territory to the legislative, executive, or judicial acts of another nation, having due regard both to international duty and convenience, and to the rights of its own citizens, or of other persons who are under the protection of its laws."
Cerovic
,
Cf.
In re Estate of Carter
,
Ezell v. City of Chicago
,
Smith v. Shalala
,
Bostic v. Schaefer
,
Cf.
Opinions of the Justices to the Senate
,
Mr. Gill suggests in his reply brief that a preponderance-of-the-evidence standard, rather than the clear-and-convincing standard, should apply in this case because,
inter alia
, Mr. Van Nostrand "chose to go through with [the subsequent ceremonial marriage]
after
having been put on notice of [Mr. Gill's] claim of [common law marriage] ...." By making this argument only in his reply brief, Mr. Gill did not properly preserve it for review, and we therefore do not address it.
See
Aeon Fin., LLC v. District of Columbia
,
Mr. Gill complains that the trial court "rush[ed] to embrace" Mr. Van Nostrand's story about a proposed future ring exchange as necessary to consecrate the parties' marriage because Mr. Nostrand's account "corresponds somewhat more closely with traditional forms, customs, and conceptions of marriage." Mr. Gill asserts that the court did so even though Mr. Van Nostrand's story was not corroborated and was "contradicted" by friend and witness Troy Liston. We do not perceive from the record that the court "rush[ed]" to credit Mr. Van Nostrand's testimony, but we do note that Mr. Gill invites us to draw conclusions from the traditional customs of marriage. He argues that treating what occurred in June 2004 as merely a marriage proposal "is inconsistent with the involvement of two gold bands rather than one engagement ring ...."
Mr. Gill acknowledged in the trial court that "[t]he 'present tense' requirement remains ...."
Mr. Gill testified that the couple honeymooned when they traveled to Florence and Paris in November 2005. The trial court credited Mr. Van Nostrand's testimony that this trip "was not a honeymoon."
By contrast, Mr. Van Nostrand testified, neither he nor Mr. Gill created any memorabilia with respect to any landmarks or milestone in their relationship because "[t]here weren't any landmarks or milestones to memorialize."
As noted above, Mr. Van Nostrand testified that the rings signified that the two men were in a monogamous relationship and that "[t]here had never been any conversation that we were even married, nothing."
Further, the record provides no support for Mr. Gill's suggestion that the parties were "hostile" to the institution of marriage that had excluded them, may not have wanted to "venerate an institution that refused to accept them," or "felt uncomfortable at the notion of jumping too hastily at an institution that had rejected them for so long."
This is not to say that one party can defeat a determination that a common law marriage existed simply by testifying that he did not believe he was common law married. When the question is whether there was a common law marriage, the analysis turns on whether the parties made a mutual agreement to be permanent partners with the same degree of commitment as the spouses in a ceremonial marriage as of the time of the mutual consent, not whether either or both believed the term "common law married" applied to them. Actions speak louder than words in this regard, and a court may find such a mutual, present-tense agreement even if one party in his testimony denies the existence of the agreement. But if one party credibly testifies that he or she did not enter into such a mutual, present-tense agreement - meaning in part that other evidence does not render the party's testimony implausible - then the court may not find that a common law marriage existed.
Mr. Gill also asserts that the court overlooked his $ 20,000 contribution (from an inheritance after his mother's death) to the costs of remodeling the house where the parties lived. But Mr. Gill acknowledged at trial that the amount was only $ 17,000, and Mr. Van Nostrand testified that he owed this money to Mr. Gill and paid it back to Mr. Gill by paying the latter's legal expenses when he ran into legal difficulties.
The court expressly recognized the parties' financial motives for various steps they took during their relationship. With regard to the residence that Mr. Van Nostrand purchased, the parties entered into a lease agreement that listed Mr. Van Nostrand as the owner and Mr. Gill as the tenant. The court found that the parties agreed to describe the relationship as landlord-tenant in order to improve Mr. Van Nostrand's debt-to-income ratio for the purposes of obtaining a more favorable mortgage. The court also referred to Exhibit 18, an employee benefits affidavit in which Mr. Van Nostrand said that the couple "currently have and intend to have indefinitely, an exclusive mutual commitment to share responsibility for each other's welfare and financial obligations that is similar to that of a married couple." The court explained that it gave little weight to the "labels the parties used on various forms, such as domestic partner or landlord/tenant," because it was "clear that the parties used the labels that they thought would be most financially advantageous at the time they completed the forms."
See also, e.g.
,
Anderson v. Anderson
,
Caution if not skepticism was also warranted in light of Mr. Gill's testimony that just as he "felt [that he and Mr. Van Nostrand] were married," he also "felt married" to Greg Prucey, a man with whom he was in a four-year relationship in Ohio prior to meeting Mr. Van Nostrand. No evidence was presented that either man sued to dissolve that "marriage" (though this may have been unnecessary based on when that marriage came into existence; Ohio abolished common law marriage for any such purported marriage that came into existence after October 10, 1991.
See
To be sure, Mr. Van Nostrand had a financial incentive to claim that he and Mr. Gill did not have a common law marriage, but this is where the close scrutiny of claims of common law marriage and the presumption of the validity of a more recent ceremonial marriage discussed above work to favor Mr. Van Nostrand's position.
We note that the
Carter
court stated that "the exchange of rings is particularly strong evidence of ... an intent" to marry.
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