[Cite as Blessing v. Blessing,

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IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF OHIO SECOND APPELLATE DISTRICT MONTGOMERY COUNTY

DARYL A. BLESSING : : Plaintiff-Appellee : Appellate Case No. 27353 : v. : Trial Court Case No. 2014-DR-762 : DEBRA M. BLESSING : (Domestic Relations Appeal) : Defendant-Appellant : :

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OPINION

Rendered on the 19th day of May, 2017.

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DARYL A. BLESSING, 3525 Lenox Drive, Kettering, Ohio 45429 Plaintiff-Appellee-Pro Se

CHARLES D. LOWE, Atty. Reg. No. 0033209, 8087 Washington Village Drive, Suite 102, Dayton, Ohio 45458 Attorney for Defendant-Appellant

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TUCKER, J. -2-

{¶ 1} Debra Ford (formerly known as Blessing) appeals from a judgment of the

Montgomery County Court of Common Pleas, Domestic Relations Division, which

terminated a shared parenting plan, named Ford the sole custodian and residential parent

of the parties' children, and maintained equal parenting time for her ex-husband, Daryl

Blessing. Ford contends that the trial court abused its discretion by failing to restrict

Blessing’s parenting time.

{¶ 2} We conclude that the trial court did not abuse its discretion in determining

that maintaining the week-to-week parenting already employed by the parties is in the

best interest of the minor children. Therefore, the judgment of the trial court will be

affirmed.

I. Factual Background

{¶ 3} Blessing and Ford were married in February 2001 and divorced in February

2015. They have three minor children who were born during the marriage. Pursuant to

a shared parenting agreement incorporated into the final judgment and decree of divorce,

the parties agreed to share legal custody of the children. Ford was designated as the

residential parent solely for the purpose of receiving public benefits on behalf of the

children. The agreement provided that the parties would have equal, week-to-week

parenting time with the children. Holiday parenting time followed the Montgomery

County Standard Order of Parenting Time.

{¶ 4} In November 2015, Ford filed a motion to terminate the shared parenting

agreement. Her motion requested that she be designated the sole legal and residential -3-

custodian of the children. Thereafter, Blessing filed a motion to terminate the shared

parenting agreement. He also requested sole custody of the children. Neither motion

made a specific request for a modification of parenting time.

{¶ 5} A hearing was conducted in April 2016. The evidence adduced at the

hearing indicates that, since the initiation of the divorce proceedings, Ford has resided in

approximately five different residences. At some point following the parties’ separation,

Ford became engaged to another man with whom she and the children resided. The

evidence indicates that this man was involved in a burglary in May 2015 when he was

shot and killed by the police. In July 2015, Ford became romantically involved with her

employer. In August 2015, Ford was convicted of operating a vehicle while under the

influence of alcohol. Ford and the children moved into the employer’s home sometime

the same month.1

{¶ 6} Ford testified that Blessing abused her during the marriage. She testified that

he broke her nose on one occasion. She testified that on another occasion, Blessing

choked her until she passed out. She testified that she did not file charges. Ford

further testified that during their separation, Blessing attempted to force his way into her

parents’ home while she was residing there. Ford obtained a protection order against

Blessing. She testified that Blessing was convicted of violating the protection order.

Ford testified that Blessing had punished her now adult sons, born of a different

relationship, by making them hold brooms above their heads. She testified that she and

the minor children attend counseling due to the abuse by Blessing. She testified that

1Prior to this move, both Ford and Blessing had been living in the Kettering Schools District. With this move, Ford resided in a different school district. -4-

Blessing permits the children to miss school, but also testified that they are doing well in

school. She also testified that she permits the children to miss school.

{¶ 7} Ford’s adult sons, T. and J., testified. Both of them lived with Blessing and

Ford while they were children. T. testified that he did not get along with Blessing, and

that he worried that the minor children would be subjected to mental abuse and improper

discipline if they lived with Blessing. He testified that Blessing used inappropriate

language around him and J., as well as around the minor boy, but that he did not do so

around the two minor girls.

{¶ 8} J. testified that Blessing had punished him and T. by having them hold

sledgehammers over their heads for 45 minutes. He then noted that they were able to

take breaks during the punishment. He testified that this would occur when he and his

brother would engage in physical fights. He testified that the sledgehammers were used

after other punishments were deemed ineffective. There was no evidence that Ford

objected to this type of punishment.

{¶ 9} Blessing presented the testimony of his daughter and his sister. Both

testified that Blessing is not violent and that he is a good parent. They testified that the

minor children are bonded to Blessing. Blessing also testified that he has lived in his

current home for six years. He is self-employed and works from home. He testified that

he raised Ford’s sons from a previous relationship for 15 years. He testified that he has

disciplined the older boys, as well as the minor boy by making them hold a broom out in

front of them.

{¶ 10} The Guardian Ad Litem submitted a report in which it was noted that the

parents have a lot of unnecessary conflict, and that they lack the ability to co-parent. The -5-

GAL found that the problems stem more from the fact that Blessing has unresolved

relationship issues with Ford, rather than any problem with parenting. However, the GAL

noted that Blessing tends to inappropriately involve the children in the parents’ issues in

order to remain involved in Ford’s life. The GAL noted that Blessing has sought

protection orders against Ford and T. which were ultimately dismissed, but which caused

interference with Ford’s parenting time. The GAL also noted that Ford had obtained a

protection order against Blessing, and that Blessing had been convicted of violating that

order.

{¶ 11} The GAL interviewed Erik Wolfe, the social worker counseling Ford and the

minor children. Wolfe indicated that he met with Ford and the children approximately

eight times during 2015 and 2016. Wolfe indicated that, based upon the reports of the

children, he felt that the “case feels dangerous,” and that he felt that Blessing has

manipulation and control issues. Wolfe indicated that he made a referral to Children

Services.2 However, Wolfe did not interview Blessing, and indicated that he was unable

to make a custody or parenting time recommendation.

{¶ 12} The GAL interviewed the children during a home visit with Blessing. The

GAL noted that the home and grounds were in “disrepair,” and that the inside of the home

is cramped. While interviewing the children, the GAL felt they had been coached. He

noted that the two younger children, ages ten and eight, took turns sitting on Blessing’s

lap and “cuddling” with him during the visit.

{¶ 13} The GAL recommended termination of the shared parenting plan. He also

2 The evidence shows that there were no open files with Children Services at the time of the hearing. -6-

recommended that Ford be designated as the custodial parent. The GAL also stated:

By definition if [Ford] is named the Custodian then the children will be

required to change schools in the upcoming academic year. If not handled

cooperatively between the parents this could be the source of great upset

for the children and ongoing conflict between the parents. [Ford] has

voiced her commitment to immediately engaging the children with a different

therapist focused on the conflict they are experiencing with their parents

and in making a transition to primarily being in her household and changing

schools. [Blessing] should be included in that process and provided he

responds appropriately then his parenting time should be at least the

Court’s Standard Order. [Blessing] should be cautioned however in the

event he continues to involve the children so heavily in these disputes with

[Ford] the Court may wish to consider a supervised involvement for

[Blessing’s] parenting time to keep the inappropriate information and matter

away from the children when visiting with him.

{¶ 14} Following the hearing, the magistrate terminated the shared parenting

arrangement and designated Ford as the sole residential and legal custodial parent.

However, the magistrate maintained the week-to-week parenting time. Ford filed

objections to the decision solely in regard to parenting time. The trial court overruled the

objections, and affirmed and adopted the magistrate’s decision. Ford appeals.

II. The Trial Court Did Not Abuse Its Discretion.

{¶ 15} Ms. Ford’s sole assignment of error states: -7-

THE TRIAL COURT ABUSED ITS DISCRETION IN ORDERING WEEK-

TO-WEEK PARENTING TIME.

{¶ 16} Ford contends that the trial court abused its discretion because it did not

reduce and/or restrict Blessing’s parenting time. Her argument hinges upon the claims

that (1) the trial court ignored and misconstrued the report of the Guardian Ad Litem, (2)

Blessing is abusive, and (3) by merely changing the parties’ titles and maintaining the

week-to-week parenting time, the court failed to address the issues that caused the

parties to seek termination of shared parenting.

{¶ 17} R.C. 3109.04(E)(2)(c) permits a court to terminate shared parenting at the

request of one or both parents if the court determines that shared parenting is not in the

best interest of the children. After terminating a shared parenting agreement, the court

must then issue a modified decree allocating parental rights “as if no decree for shared

parenting had been granted and as if no request for shared parenting ever had been

made.” R.C. 3109.04(E)(2)(d).

{¶ 18} “R.C. 3109.051(D) sets forth [16] factors to be considered in granting

parenting time. These include the relationship between the parent and child(ren); their

geographic proximity and available time; the age, health, and safety of the children; the

mental and physical health of all the parties; and any other factor bearing on the best

interest of the children.” Murphy v. Murphy, 2d Dist. Greene No. 2007 CA 43, 2007-

Ohio-6692, ¶ 17. “The issue of parenting time is a matter entrusted to the discretion of

the trial court. Thus, absent an abuse of that discretion, we will not reverse a trial court's

decision on parenting time.” Szeliga v. Szeliga, 2d Dist. Greene No. 2011–CA–65,

2012–Ohio–1973, ¶ 12. “Abuse of discretion” is a term used to indicate that a trial court's -8-

decision is unreasonable, arbitrary or unconscionable.

“The knowledge a trial court

gains through observing the witnesses and the parties in a custody proceeding cannot be

conveyed to a reviewing court by a printed record. Thus, a reviewing court may not

reverse a custody determination unless the trial court has abused its discretion.”

(Citations omitted.) Beismann v. Beismann, 2d Dist. Montgomery No. 22323, 2008–

Ohio–984, ¶ 20.

{¶ 19} After reviewing the GAL’s report, we cannot say that the trial court either

ignored, or misconstrued, the recommendations. The GAL recommended the

termination of the shared parenting plan and the designation of Ford as custodial parent.

The court followed this recommendation. The GAL further noted that Blessing should

receive “at least” the standard order of parenting time so long as he refrains from involving

the children in his disputes with Ford. Given that the GAL recommended the standard

order of parenting time as the minimum, we cannot base a finding that the trial court

ignored or misconstrued the recommendation on the mere fact that the court maintained

the parenting time previously agreed to by the parties. The concerns raised by the GAL

regarding Blessing’s involvement of the kids in the parents’ issues simply were not so

serious as to compel the trial court to disqualify Blessing from having extended parenting

time with his children.

{¶ 20} Ford next contends that the evidence demonstrates that Blessing is

abusive. However, the trial court noted that the allegations of abuse are

unsubstantiated, and that there is no evidence of criminal behavior involving the minor

children. We note that the allegations of abuse made by Ford involved incidents that

occurred prior to the execution of the shared parenting agreement in which Ford agreed -9-

to equal custody and parenting time. Blessing denied abusing Ford. Further, there was

no evidence presented to indicate that Blessing had abused the children. Thus, we

cannot say that the trial court abused its discretion by failing to credit Ford’s testimony in

this regard.

{¶ 21} Finally, contrary to Ford’s argument that the trial court’s order changes

nothing, we note that her designation as sole residential and custodial parent provides

her with the ultimate decision-making authority regarding the health and education of the

children. Thus, the trial court has effected a change in the status of the parties which

has the potential to avert any further parenting conflict. If conflict continues to occur,

Ford is free to file subsequent motions to address the issues.

{¶ 22} The record shows that both parties have made some questionable

decisions. However, there is nothing in this record to suggest that either parent has

harmed the children or that either parent is unfit. There is evidence upon which the trial

court could find that the children are bonded with Blessing. Further, they are healthy and

doing well in school. Blessing has flexibility in his self-employment so that he can

transport the children to and from their new school during his parenting time. There is

nothing to indicate that Blessing has any mental health problems that would prevent him

from properly parenting. While his home is reported to be in disrepair, the trial court did

not find this to be of enough significance to require restricted or supervised parenting

time.

{¶ 23} Our review of the record does not convince us that the trial court abused its

discretion in maintaining equal parenting time. Accordingly, Ford’s sole assignment of

error is overruled. -10-

III. Conclusion

{¶ 24} Ford’s sole assignment of error is overruled and the judgment of the trial

court is affirmed.

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DONOVAN, J. and FROELICH, J., concur.

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Daryl A. Blessing Charles D. Lowe Hon. Timothy D. Wood